SALT ~ This week ~ Hurt
Whenever
I am hurt because of my friends or loved ones I silently wish people around me
were more understanding. But then I feel what I am wishing for and why. Who are
they to be given so much of an importance? Just because I have some good
memories with them does it mean that I allow them to treat me like this and
better still not even acknowledge that it hurts me.
Why do I feel indebted to them? Or am I scared of confronting? What is at
stake? A relationship which is already in tatters and is loosely hanging from
the bare threads? What am I going to save it from? It’s already on its way to
destruction. Will my asking or confronting do any damage control? I doubt.
But
on second thoughts maybe a stitch in time could save nine. Why not make a last
attempt to save the relationship by talking to them about it. At least five
years down the line I will not feel guilty and face a could have-should have
situation. As I have given them the right to hurt me, I also have the right to
tell them what hurts and how much. There is nothing to lose. Either I will
save a relationship or I will gain a nice lesson.
Lesson
Learnt: When it hurts, let the other person know where and how much. Without
telling it sometimes the other person just doesn’t realize it. It is for the
benefit of you, the relationship and also the other person. By not telling them
we unknowingly deprive them of a chance to rectify their mistake and also give them a chance to hurt us again and again.
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PEPPER ~ This week ~ Surrender
After being through a lot of ups and downs personally and professionally, I finally found a golden mantra for survival in today's world 'SURRENDER'
Lesson Learnt : Re-posting one of my earlier posts as it reflects my current thoughts perfectly
I surrender to:
A world which is full of hypocrites and back stabbers,people who have no conscious and sleep peacefully at night after hurting someone, those selfish hearts who are alive with their heads held high with a giddy feeling because of their inflated egos and heartless souls.
I surrender because:
All they can give me is pain and all I can give
in return is my smile.They can’t take anything from me unless I want
them to.It doesn’t mean I am weak. It means I choose to
stay unaffected by them.I accept them with their flaws.
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You know what I also used to feel the same about relationships a lot. We should give it a last try if something wrong happened but it turns out sometime the other person itself is not interested or sometimes I was worried about other person very much.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes smile is the one thing which one should never let it go. This is one major thing I have learned too.
Very true... we sometimes do get worried about the other person too much!
DeleteKeep smiling :o)
Hurt:
ReplyDeleteagree with your thoughts cent percent...yes at times we come across to situations when we think whether we should give another try or not...i suppose to give another try is the best choice at any point of time...as you had said it perfectly ...if it works out a relation is saved if it doesn't ...a lesson is learnt...!!!
Surrender:
well i don't really understand why the name surrender? are you surrendering yourself to let them harm you...where you can only give them your smiles back or tears instead...?
It should have named Ignore instead...as in the previous topic Hurt you have stated to give another try...it can be applied over here also...and if it doesn't work...you know a fish cannot live without water similarly a wrong doer cannot live without hurting others...the best option for anyone is to ignore them...just ignore that they are there in your life...!!!
Yes very true..hurt is something that happens when we all it to happen.By surrender I dont mean I am letting them harm me. I am saying I mean I am surrendering to it by choosing to stay unaffected!!
DeleteIgnore them is the best thing as they want attention the most in life :)
Exactly...if you give them your attention that's the weak link such people take and leave no respite to offend you...if you can ignore them...you know you you doing good for both...!!!
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