SALT ~ This week ~ Learn
Loving and learning is something we are taught from the day we are born. We learn how to talk, listen, feel, eat, walk and gradually the lessons get more and more tough. We are told that we should love everyone around us and be nice to them. The sad thing is we are not taught when to stop.
While teaching us so many things someone should have told us that there are a few questions in life which have no answers. Nobody told us about the mysterious ways of life which could confuse us. They should have informed us about the lessons life has also got to taught. To learn which we sometimes need to forget many things we might have learnt till now.
Sometimes we love someone and get hurt in return. Whey they were talking about love, why did not anyone talk about this hurt. They should have mentioned this and taught us how to stop loving that person thereby saving ourselves further hurt. But the old lessons which we learnt from childhood are so deeply imbibed that it takes ages for us to learn these new lessons that life is throwing our way.Just like' start' is important in life; so is 'stop'. But we need to stop before the damage is beyond repair.
Lesson
Learnt: Learning is a way of life and Life- the world's best teacher. To learn some new lessons we sometimes have to unlearn some older lessons before it is too late.
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PEPPER ~ This week ~ Loss
This week I experienced a loss - a loss of something very precious to me to death. It is not that this was the first time I was watching death so closely. I have witnessed many of my dreams die and this was one such dream. You might think I am being foolish but for me the death of a dream is equally painful and traumatic.
I took so much pains to nurture that dream and bring it till here. Day and night all my thoughts were centered around it and suddenly one fine day it went phhhuuuuuffff. It simply vanished into thin air, from where it had come. To say it hurt would be a small word to describe the pain I felt at that time.
Amidst all the beauty associated with life, there lies a bad facet of life which has a very painful side. This painful side involves hurt, anguish, grief, pain, heartbreak, injury, loss and lament. This journey which starts with a wound always ends up in scars. The scars could be of three types of scars:
- Physical – Ones which you get when you are injured by any accident / fight, which leads to blood shed.
- Emotional – Ones which you get when you are hurt by a loved one or through any disappointment you might come across in life like heartbreak, failure, a dream which didn’t come true etc.
- Mental – Ones which you get when you are shocked with something that has happened in your life leaving you with a fear or a phobia.
Whenever I experience any of these types of injury, I treat it like any physical wound. Give it ample time to heal completely. Do all that I can to ensure proper recuperation. Cry if I need to. Lament my
grief or hurt; but once it’s healed, let go of all the pain and hurt. I cherish the scars, because scars are beautiful. They are gifts from life in the form of some lessons learnt, though the hard
way. They taught me something and remind me where I have been ; the hurdles I have crossed to be where I am today.
Lesson Learnt : Losing something in life hurts a lot and leaves us scarred. Never be ashamed to flaunt your scars; because it’s better to have done and failed rather than have never done at all !!

Me, you're one person with most practical thoughts around, anybody told you that? :)
ReplyDeleteAs I said, Life is like a song. You just need to play along my friend, even if there are glitches and unforeseen ephemeral ends. Basically, life and loss are what you make of them. It's in your hands to drink the poison or to change the gear! Righto? ;)
No Leo.... nobody has till now.But getting this compliment from you truly means a lot to me.
DeleteLovely words as always and a wonderful compliment which has brought a huge smile on my face - PERFECTO :)
I loved your posts so much Me. I experienced loss less than a year ago, and it has hurt like hell. i am healing now and learning to let go
ReplyDeleteThanks Nikky, am really glad you like them. I can truly understand how much it hurts when you experience loss. Last week I had temporarily cut off myself from the outer world till I accepted it. I am also in the process of healing and learning to let go.
DeleteTake care <3
Me, I love both sides, salt and pepper, in your post today. Learning life's lessons can be so difficult, especially when we haven't been properly prepared, haven't been warned that there can be pitfalls along the way. The tough lessons, though, do stay with us and, hopefully, help us to grow in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteAnd, loss of anything or anyone near and dear to our hearts is always so painful and difficult to bear. I'm sorry you had to endure the loss of your dream, my friend, and I wish you God speed as you heal and open possibilities for the new dreams He has in store for you.
Blessings!
I agree with you the tough lessons definitely help us grow and they also help us warn our children and loved one about them. Thank you so much Martha for such beautiful words. AMEN to your prayers :)
DeleteVery reflective post! I enjoyed it! Important lessons for anyone to learn and be reminded of from time to time.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jessica.... Welcome here!
DeleteLife does have a beautiful way of teaching us some of the most important and unforgettable lessons.
Never let go of a dream - let go of the way in which you want them fulfilled for that might not be the right way.
ReplyDeleteLoved your post. The last 4 years of my life I have experienced loss and pain that I never would have ever imagined. I am now healed and I have moved on in my life. But I never let go of my dreams. I allow the Universe to present them to me in the way they believe I need them. I let go of the need to have those dreams fulfilled in the way I want them fulfilled.
((hugs))
Wow...you have put across a very strong message so beautifully. I agree with each and every word you wrote....dreams should not be let go; only the condition of having them fulfilled should be...I will remember your advice every time I am feeling low. Thanks Suzy :)
DeleteTake care...<3
As usual a very out there post... Me you wrote this exactly how I would have felt so I totally can understand the feeling behind it...
ReplyDeleteThat was really a wonderful compliment - thank you so much :)
DeleteDear Me (is that what you call yourself, or what I should call you?),
ReplyDeleteLoss of a dream can be very painful. I hope you're feeling better today!
XOXOX
Hi Linda, Yes that is what I call myself as this is the only place in this world where I can just be myself. Hence the name 'Me'. You can choose to address me with any name you deem appropriate though :)
DeleteThis loss has been extremely painful and entire last week I was trying to cope up with it. Finally I decided to write about it and am feeling better after doing that. It makes me feel good that I am being heard and my pain understood.
Thank you so much Linda, this message truly means a lot to me!
hi miss 'ME',
ReplyDeletei came accross to your blog through my friend..your writting is truly good... this is day 1 and i am almost done with your salt and pepper..really good food for thoughts...i totally liked you facebook depression one..
its actually true..i have seen it happening in real life..
Wow!!That was truly a lovely comment.. It feels good to know that my salt and pepper posts could do that for you!
DeleteYes FB depression is something we all see around ourselves.
Thank you so much for being here, hope to see you more often!
P.S: Do convey my heartfelt gratitude to your 'friend' - as it means my blog was an enjoyable read! :)
Learn:
ReplyDeletesometimes in life...we go on to the learning process so much that it's very difficult to come back to the starting point...where it all started...there are times...when the Stop button simply won't work...because the brakes have already been destroyed...and only thing left is to learn this new experience...which would be a scar for life time...!!!
Loss:
i loved your explanation of loss...one's dream is as important as one's life...am not speaking of the day to day goal...but of a life long dream...for which we work ourselves through out life till the time...it finally vanished...
much to learn from this...incredible...story...!!!
Interesting introspection - Brake failure! Yes life does do this. Not giving a stop button at all leaving us with the only option of getting hurt. But I guess scars are beautiful as they remind you of a lesson learnt. The journey you took to reach here and how stronger you have become!
DeleteI had read in a book called Dealing with loss of love that dreams, job, and all things also qualify as love and its loss hurts us a lot.
I am glad you feel there is something to be learnt from this story. :)
Thank you so much!