My tryst with marriage: Foreword
Previous Parts: Introduction
“Marriage”……………. That word itself creates a dreamy picture of a weeklong celebrations, finest jewelry, best food, fun, frolic, laughter and enjoyment, especially in the Indian societies. In short it is the celebrations of a moment’s happiness with a lot of pomp and show. Astonishingly enough even the games we girls play in childhood are surrounded around matrimony and household. Our favourite game is “ghar-ghar”. We have our own kitchen set, a doll that we like to call our daughter and if you are someone like me then you would have also arranged your doll’s wedding with equal élan.
For a girl it all starts since the day she is born. She is brought up with one gnawing fact to be accepted – Her marriage. Her every act is somehow connected to her marriage. Look beautiful. Study well. Be good at household things. All this and more only for a nice groom……!! And then once she attains the marriageable age she is put up for display. Near and dear ones are told about her exceptional cooking skills, her loving and caring nature and not to forget her exemplary educational abilities.
Not for once does anyone think that she might not be all this but has been made like this just to ensure that she is married at the right time to the right person. Its sounds so hilarious – you can’t laugh out loud, you can’t display your opinion on any matter and the list goes on. Some wacky list of Do’s and Don’ts which make you cringe at just the thought of it. And people think it’s difficult to know a woman. How can you know someone who herself doesn’t know what she wants and what she doesn’t? I have also witnessed discussions where girls have been told that they should not be short tempered, rude or aggressive in their behavior. Rather than cursing her flaws why not appreciate her abilities and have trust on your upbringing.
Trust that all the values that have been imbibed would definitely make her a good human being above everything else. [With or without cooking…….!] And at the end of the day that is the only thing that matters……because a good cook or a maid servant can be hired but an individual with good moral values cannot be. Every parent dreams of a perfect life partner for their child but is also aware of the painful fact that finding a perfect match is not easy.
This is where this story begins; join in as it takes you along the rickety road of matrimony in the journey of finding a groom for me.
~To be continued