Diary of a Lost Wanderer ~ The art of Losing



I somehow cannot recollect my first loss clearly. As far as my memory goes it was the loss of my best friend in 3rd standard. For an 8 year old it definitely seemed like the end of the world as I kept writing her name next to BEST FRIEND in every slam book for years before concluding that perhaps she never felt so for me. 

One of the very first lessons I learnt through my losses was this: “What you feel for someone need not be the way for someone. That is no way means you are not supposed to feel for them like that, nor does it mean that they are supposed to do so too. “To each his own” applies here too.” It took me a while to grasp this completely but once I did, it brought me lot of peace. And this lesson came to me from none other than one of the great master Osho. 

I still remember that endless night when I was crying with the skies for company lamenting the long list of losses in my life till then when I recollected this question I had read somewhere in one of those books by Osho flipping through it randomly someday, “Just because you love someone the way you do, does it mean someone has to love you the same way too?”

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It is very easy to call someone a loser but if looked upon closely we all are losers in some way or the other.Sometimes a dream, at times a loved one, a favourite thing, a dear friend, a precious possession, an unforgettable memoir…the forms of losses change each time along with the degree of pain and hurt. What also changes is our strength as with every loss our resilience towards pain keeps improving till perhaps finally one day we reach a stage where no loss affects us. It feels like a very ideal situation to be at least in words but in reality it is seldom achieved because at any stage of life we all have at least one Achilles heel. 

Life has tested me a lot just like each one of us and at the same time has blessed me in abundance with enough gains too. And if all that has come at the loss of few things whose absence has now become a habit, should I be complaining about it? The very realization of this ultimate truth came to me the day when one day I couldn’t identify myself in the mirror. I kept staring at my reflection playing the game of “Find 6 similarities” for long before accepting defeat. 

In losing all that I had loved and liked I was losing away a piece of myself bit by bit. My soul kept chipping away as I mourned their loss till the day when I had changed beyond recognition. That was the moment when I learnt the most important lesson in the art of losing. “No other loss in this world is worse than losing yourself.” 

At the end of the day the losses never decrease or go away from our lives. Life is as much about gaining as much as it is about losing.

P.S: This post was written under the #ChallengerSeries #BlogBuddyMavericks as a part of Blogchatter in response to the prompt challenge thrown by Chandni who blogs at Life in Technicolour. Thank you for such a lovely prompt that was just the perfect thing I needed this weekend! 

Comments

  1. As we lose yet another year , we are leaving so much behind. We often try to adopt a cheery positive outlook to the New year as it stands of a new beggining.
    Its full of hope as we try to visualise that it would magically transform our tommorrow.
    I have been thinking about my favourite poem , 'The Art of losing ..isnt hard to master' that talks about loss in a unique way. Every time we take a step ahead , we leave something behind. I thought this prompt was a way for us to remember the year gone by- in all its glory - that we are losing behind. The good, bad and ugly - its all a part of us now and we must take a moment to live them again.
    Before we move forward to something new . Your post was so personal and emotional , it took me a few readings to really grasp the pain and sense of loss behind these words.
    Its through writing that we can connect with our own self deeply and looks like the prompt helped you do that.
    Lovely post :)

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    1. The poem was the first thing that came to my mind too and my immediate reaction was writing a reco post on the year that was. But somehow my mind kept going back to THIS and finally when I opened a blank word document to write words just came out. Maybe you are right it did trigger something very deep in me and made me write this but I am glad I did that. It made me smile as I finished.... as I felt good. :)

      Thank you so much!

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  2. Reading this reminded me of how Jesus said we must lose ourselves in order to find ourselves in Him. Not all loss is bad!
    Blessings, Privy!

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    1. So beautifully said Martha, if all losses lead to Him then we shouldn't be complaining at all. Hugs <3

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  3. yes each one of us in some way is a loser.. who are we to call others so... words touch..

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  4. such a wonderful post Namrata! and filled with many useful lessons. especially the one about knowing that we are different for the other person, they have their own way of viewing life and their feelings is something that belong to them, which we can have no control over irrespective of how much love we give them. so to realize that just because we love someone doesn't mean they have to love us in return is a beautiful truth. and that is the real essence of love, unconditional and not bounded by expectations. realizing this not only frees us but also allows us to love more openly!

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    1. Thank you so much Omkar, I read this comment atleast 3-4 times not because I didn't understand it but because I wanted the meaning to soak in completely. I totally agree with you that yes this allows us to love more openly. I have experienced it an it feels too good.

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