Doubt & Admire ~ This week




SALT ~ This week ~Doubt


I share a very wonderful camaraderie with all my cousins. (Touch-wood!!!) Despite the age gaps and geographical distances we have always managed to keep in touch and stay connected. Recently when we all met, we were sharing some of our childhood memories. One of my cousins displayed her most prizest possession – A letter from tooth fairy sent to her when she was 7 years old. I was pleasantly surprised to see that letter as that letter has a secret story behind it.

Some 8 years ago all of us were spending summer holidays at my granny’s place when my cousin lost her tooth and she started crying hysterically. Despite all efforts her crying simply refused to stop and I could not see her crying so much. So I cooked up a plan. I narrated the tooth fairy’s story to her. I told her how the fairy will come and night to take away her tooth along with the pain and leave a gift for her. Surprisingly she bought that story and stopped crying. The day went about peacefully and I thanked God as it seemed she had forgotten all about it. 

Just when we were about to sleep in the night, she ran into the kitchen and came back with her tooth. ‘Oh shucks!’ I thought, ‘She still remembers it. ‘I innocently asked her, ‘What happened? Why have you got that?’ She smiled triumphantly and said,’ You forgot? Remember that tooth fairy. I will keep it under my pillow so that she comes tonight.’ Saying this she went to her bed, tucked the tooth safely under her pillow and plopped down on the bed to sleep.

Good night Dee… sweet dreams..’ she wished me sweetly and went to sleep. I cannot describe how bad I was feeling for having lied to such a darling. Immediately I thought of another idea. I stayed awake till late that night and made her a letter. Full of fairies, glitters, cartoons and in the end I wrote to her, her gift was a surprise which she could buy from her favourite toy shop. 

I tiptoed near her bed, carefully removed that tooth from under the pillow and threw it outside the window. And then I placed this letter there and left as quietly as I had entered. She was so ecstatic on reading it the next day and did not even doubt the sanctity for a moment. I was happy because she was happy.

Today she is a confident young lady of 16 years and when I saw this I was tempted to ask her,’ How can you say this is true? You remember na how Rohan (name changed -my other cousin) just broke his tooth in a football match last week..he did not get any visit from the tooth fairy?

She smiled and said’ Dee for that you need to believe and not doubt. This is the problem with all elders. They want to doubt everything around them and not believe. Remember what Albert Einstein said you can live as if nothing is a miracle; and you can live as if everything is a miracle. Maybe Rohan does not believe in tooth fairies then how do you expect her to visit him. I did, and she visited me. For me tooth fairy exists and she visited me. Whether to believe it or not is your choice!  ’ I smiled as I agreed with all that she said. I truly believe and don’t doubt anything that happens around Me. 

Just think our relationships, our jobs, friends and family everything would be so beautiful without all those doubts. We always seem to doubt some of the most obvious and beautiful things of life like love, care, success, joy etc. You always ask your loved one ‘Do you really love me?’ Do you anytime ask your enemy if he/she really hates you? You doubt your success but are so sure about your failure. It’s high time we changed this approach. We all need to believe and cease doubting in everything that we do. I am sure that will lead us to leading happier lives.

Lesson Learnt : I want to share with you all a wonderful article I had read some 10-12 years ago in a newspaper by Wendy Paris. This cutting is a part of my scrap book which is very aptly titled ‘My Little Book of Happiness’ because flipping through its pages leaves Me feeling happy. This article is the reason why Cinderella till date remains my favourite fairy tale and denotes hope for Me. Hope you enjoy reading it!


Please double click on the image to enlarge and read it.
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PEPPER ~ This week ~ Admire


Every year in the month of April just like all other companies my company also declares the promotion list for the year. It is time when some people are super excited and some really upset. There are extreme reactions in the coming weeks with some employees quitting jobs, while some going on long unplanned leaves to get even with their bosses. 

One of my colleagues called me one day to share some gossip.’ You know that Lekha, she got promoted and even got a huge bonus. I knew she would get it. She is always ready to wag her tail the moment she sees her boss. I heard last week she sent a beautiful saree to boss as a birthday gift along with a box of chocolates and bouquet of her favourite orchids. So much for a promotion I tell you…’

I just nodded a feeble’ Hmmmm…’ which irritated her and asked me’ What hmmm? We also slog so much the entire year, work hard, adhere to deadlines and what do we get in return; some stupid rating and a long lecture on improvement on conference call.’ I replied,’ Ya.. you are right.’ So she threw the ball in my court,’ What do you think we should do?’ 

I said ‘Let’s do everything that Lekha did. I am sure boss will love a belated birthday gift also.’ She got angry ‘Are you out of your mind? I am not going to do anything like that.’  I replied, ‘I know. We cannot. Hence we don’t. Admire for all that she has done. Right or wrong is a different battle altogether. She did something which we could not, so she got something which we did not. It is as simple as that. Let’s leave it at that as there is nothing that we can do about it.’ Needless to say I won the battle here.

I learnt this from the CEO of our company. He had once narrated to us an incident. In his previous job, he and another guy were arch rivals giving each other cut throat competition. One day that other guy beat this person in a contest by a huge number. Instead of crying hoarse about it, he invited that person for coffee. Though everyone was baffled with this act of his, he had a very simple logic for this, ‘He did something different than me and won. I need to know what he did and can I do it or not. I need to admire him for having thought something different, even if he is my enemy. You cannot deny he was smart in this move.’ One of the zillion reasons why I love my job!! I am sure you would all agree its feels wonderful to work under a leader who thinks like this.

Lesson Learnt :  We have something to learn from everyone around us - which includes our family, friends , loved ones and enemies also. When somebody does something really different, admire him/her for that and then decide whether is a TO-DO or TO DO-NOT-DO.

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P.S: Writing these Salt & Pepper series has helped Me look deeper into myself and week after week I seem to find something new. If you have any interesting Salt and Pepper moments you would want to share, please feel free to use the picture above and post them on your blog. Do leave your links here in the comments to read.

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Comments

  1. Nice thoughts Me. You always write about some interesting and factual topics extracted from real life. I really like it :)

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    1. Thanks Tarang...glad you liked it!! :o)

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  2. Lovely, Me..you seem to be a person who is growing every day in thoughts and habits.Becoming a better person, consciously is probably the greatest gift you can give yourself and to the people you are with.
    Thanks, Me for sharing such lovely thoughts each week, compelling us to introspect and inspiring us to think and do better in our lives :-)

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    1. Uma, thank you so much for such a wonderful comment!!

      Yes you are right, I am constantly making an attempt to see things happening around Me and learning from them.

      And yes, lastly the pleasure is all mine. I am truly honoured!

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  3. Thanks for sharing the Cinderella story. Interesting that just before I read your post I was thinking, now why can't "this" come my way. Cinderella is just the answer I needed. "Think Cinderella" is my new mantra.

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    1. I am really happy to read your comment Suzy!

      Yes this article is truly inspiring and I am glad it did for you too :)

      Superb mantra - thanks for sharing it!!

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  4. loved ur post. especially I am thinking of keeping a little book of happiness. although the diaries I have in which I keep some gyan are like that to me. maybe I will call my diaries that. thanks for sharing

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    1. Hello Jerly,

      Welcome here!

      Oh wow... you should do that... these small things give us a lot of joy - knowingly/unknowingly!

      My book I have since last 10-12 years and yes it is one of my prizest possessions so far!!

      Thanks for being here today!

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  5. Oh, your salt and pepper tales are so inspirational! I love the faith reflected in the tooth fairy story and the power of positive thinking in the job/promotion story. Excellent, my friend, absolutely excellent!
    Blessings to you!

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    1. Thanks Martha for loving them :)

      Faith and positive thinking can actually help us go a long way in life.

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  6. aah a wonderful post as always Ms. Privy; I so look forward to your salt n pepper moments :) the Cinderella article was a real boost in the arms :) and the doubt and admire notes were poignant and true. Keep writing and inspiring

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    1. Thank you Priya - I can always rely on you for writing a lovely comment as always which makes me grin from ear to ear:D

      This Cindrella article is one of my favourites too.....

      I am truly honoured, thanks!

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  7. such cute Salt story. Ans such deep insight from your cousin, the life is all about belief. You believe it will happen then it will. Else it will not :) Next time you meet her, just give her a hug from my side please.

    Pepper- Yes, I too have same opinion like you have. You know in Ramayan, when Ravan is about to die, Ram asks Laxman to pay a visit and learn politics from him, since he was too good in it. ( I heard it from my college sir, I do not know if its true). I too have come across some one who is very good in art and studies, but very good in politics. She made my life hell when I was in college. I changed myself to move away from her politics. I just sat and watched how she played around. If anyone asks me who is good in art and design, I still recommend her name. Because she has a great talent. Sadly She and I are no more friends ( that's for my betterment only!)

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    1. Pakka sure.... we are meeting next month again..will add a hug from you too with all those jhappis we exchange :)

      OMG! I also was not aware about this portion in Ramayana, but yes I had read that he was the biggest devotee of Lord Shiva and it was a boon he had asked for to die in the hands of Lord Rama Himself.

      Politics - that is something which I always fail to understand. Why do people do it and what do they get it beyond my understanding...

      And yes observing such people a wonderful learning in itself as it teaches you the DONTs very well :)

      Loved your approach to it!

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  8. I love coming here , although i am not always on time .. the salt and pepper do add the right spice to everything that i read ..

    Loved reading the article tooo .. my oh my if only i had such wonderful writing skill :)

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    1. Hey Bikram, there is nothing like a right time or a wrong time as your being here matters the most at any time :)

      Thanks for being so kind with your words!

      And yes that article is simply superb I agree ;)

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  9. Very nice. I am really glad that you come up with such interesting incidents from real life. God bless.

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    1. Thanks Jas for all your blessings!

      Yes, life does teach us a lot of things knowing or unknowingly!

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  10. What a narration......really loved it.....and truly said tht one should see each thing as miracle and stop doubting....by this life would be so easy amd intereating......

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    1. Thanks Creative Space, glad you liked it so much!

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  11. A nice salt and pepper with a better taste. I want to say again- now you have become a pro in choosing salt and pepper words to make it perfect combo.
    It seems you have scanned your scrapbook/diary for the firs time. :-o Hats off to you.
    Still, you didn't tell her the truth ? ;) I guess she can understood it quite better by now but she has a good feeling for you. :)
    I like your admire thought. This is what I try to follow "let fight it in our own style".

    P.S. : you believe in "Cousin" word ? :-|

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    1. :o)

      Glad to hear these kind words coming from you!

      Practice does make one nearly perfect I guess... Yes I did it for the first time. I wanted to share this version of Cindrella since quite sometime, was waiting for the right moment. It suited this week's topic..so here it is!

      Yep..I did not tell her the truth because I know somewhere deep inside her heart she knows it was Me. Because she can read Me through and I am sure that stupid grin of my face when were discussing this gave Me away for sure!!

      P.S: I don't believe in any words. I believe in Rose called any other name would be as sweet! I could have called her a sister, a friend, an aunt, a colleague or a neighbour the essence of the story would not have changed !!! :)

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    2. "kind words" ? It's my pleasure to being here and read such nice article and learning. :)

      I got it Bingo ! :P

      Confused :-/

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    3. Yup! I have been lucky to have a wonderfully genuine critic in you who constantly gives Me feedback for improvement. So it truly means a to lot receiving positive feedback from you, as that means I have truly improved :)

      Confused..please don't be! There is nothing so complicated. I just meant terming her as cousin made the narration easier hence the usage. No offence meant to any of the relationships!

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  12. Your CEO is one smart guy :) And i loved the tooth fairy one too

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    1. Oh yes.... He surely is. I truly admire him a lot!!

      Thanks dear:)

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  13. Doubt: it was quiet evident that you were the fairy for you cousin...but it's obvious and clearly stated my point is...you knew you did it...but your cousin didn't...similarly if we believe in miracles they will certainly happen to us...may be someone will be responsible for it...but we will get our desired result...i couldn't read the newspaper cutting...even after clicking it....the enlarged frame also had the font so minute everything seemed jumbled up :( but i could read the two lines of the heading marked in bold...

    Admire:
    brilliant...you wrote a familiar site at every office so...nicely that i could only admire...really a very well grafted lesson...
    We should admire even our worst enemies for their success as it's the winning lesson which will lead us upward and not the enmity...!!!

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    1. Oh... I guess the browser must be acting funny...no worries will mail it to you as an attachment for it surely worth reading :)

      As I had commented on one of your posts, if you believe everything is a miracle and if you don't nothing is said Einstein. So we need to keep our eyes open, as we never know when we would be blessed with a miracle.

      Very true, admiration needs to be of the work and not of person's intention behind it!

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