Worth & Mind ~ This week




SALT ~ This week ~Worth

In this beautiful journey of life we meet many people and we give them certain things like our love, care, concern, the right to hurt us and worth. Yes. We decide a place for that person based on which we decide their worth in our lives. Isn’t that why sometimes we exclaim in anger ‘ S/he is simply not worth it!’. But do we realise what we are worth? Just like all those people we also have our own worth, though we seldom realise this. We are responsible for the way people treat us or behave with us and that helps determine our worth.

There is a very line of demarcation between self respect and ego, because of which we sometimes get confused whether we are being egoistic or is it really beyond our self respect. It is not wrong to put your foot down and say ‘enough’ when it seems to strangulate your self-respect. 

I was a person always associated with an inferiority complex. There are various reasons for that like this. I had happily accepted that and never made an attempt to change it, till I read a book by Osho.He has mentioned in that book - There is nothing known as superiority complex at all. People who suffer from this are actually the ones who fake this attitude to hide their insecurities. And the ones who have an inferiority complex are the ones who are confident and happy about their own self. They know their true worth but are tagged as inferior for reasons unknown. What a profound thought! 

I thought a lot and concluded he is right after I spoke to few of my friends whom I had considered as having superiority complex. They confessed that they were insecure and always felt shallow about themselves; hence the pretence. Since that day I don’t resent / admire people with superiority complex. I only feel bad for them as they are yet to realize their true worth.

Lesson Learnt :Never let anyone trample yourself respect. Whenever in doubt take a deep breath, smile and remember L’Oreal’s tag line – Because you are worth it. Say this to yourself to remind what you truly deserve!
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PEPPER ~ This week ~ Mind
 


Every time you meet someone the person will have two responses – Either it will be a compliment or criticism. Imagine a day when you are all decked up prettily and your mirror replicates your thoughts. You feel very confident as you go to party and receive lots of compliments almost from everyone except one. 

That one person walks up to you and says, ‘Yaar…what is this you are wearing? It does not suit you at all…. You know your body structure is pear shaped and…’ You cannot hear beyond that as your confidence is punctured. Why so? Why cannot you think of all the people who complimented you? Why out all the things you heard this evening you choose to remember only this one harsh thing while you had the option of remembering some 100 beautiful things?

This is human psyche. We mind things which we should not and don’t mind things we should. I agree there is a slight chance the critic could be genuine but there is also a possibility that it could be due to various factors like jealousy and hatred. With such skewed ratio that is definitely a possibility. But we never think like that, because our minds have been programmed like that. We need to believe in ourselves and not let such people ruin our beliefs. The road on this journey of life is full of people who seem to be moving around in road rollers waiting to trample people like us at any given opportunity. It’s high time that rather than being punctured by them we puncture them just by not minding their nonsensical comments at all. Time for some re-programming?

Lesson Learnt : Let our minds be like beautiful photo albums ; capturing some of the most  beautiful memories of our lives rather than making it a visitors book where everyone and anyone leaves a mark.

P.S:One confession - Though I have written this today here I am still trying to implement it 100% in my life too.

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Comments

  1. Interesting post.
    As though I do follow up this things but I think I have to re-think one thing atleast.

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    1. Ah! Glad to know this made you think or rather re-think...:)

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  2. we can never implement 100 p.c of these thoughts at all points of time but yes diligently working towards it will take us places. I totally loved the Pepper thought today - the lesson learnt is profound and something I will hold on to ! thanks for sharing

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    1. Thank you so much Priya for such a lovely comment!

      We diligently work and that is the most we can do. Rest all is a part of destiny for us.

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  3. You are correct. Superiority complex is an exaggerated feeling of being superior to others. Human mind is strange. It is on the verge of grandiose delusions.

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    1. Yes, very true. We are sometimes so confused ourselves that we tend to create a lot of chaos around us too:)

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  4. Promise to haunt :-)) a beautifully written piece:)

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    1. Thank you so much Panchaliji... your comment is truly appreciated!

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  5. Thought provoking. I agree with the fact the we determine how a person behaves with us. If we let others trample us, they do and if we hold our ground, they take a beack seat.

    For Mind -I would it depends on who says what. If it is someone close, I pay attention and if it is not - I don't let any buggers bother me.

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    1. Such a wonderful attitude Jas...wish I could do that. You know I suck at accepting both compliments and criticism.. that is something I seriously need to learn how to deal with.

      Thanks for such an encouraging comment :)

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  6. well its not about 100% its about TRYING .. so you are alreayd doing a good job in trying t odo it .. all the best


    Bikram's

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    1. Thanks Bikram.. I really need that luck!

      An attempt is surely a step in that direction.

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  7. Such profound thoughts Me. And your second section about the Mind clinging onto negative things is something great seers preach. Wow! Kudos gal! Your thoughts are profound!

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    1. Oh wow Jaish... I seriously loved your comment!

      Thank you so much!

      I just wish I could have that maturity to reach their level of knowledge and wisdom :)

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  8. Worth :
    it was interesting to get your views on worth based superiority and inferiority point of views...
    my views : Superiority complex means...thinking oneself to be superior than others..well i would like to bring few points from our mythology...every demon who went on to bite the dust considered themselves to the ultimate supreme as such he is the ruler of the world and no one can defeat him...and things like that...what happened in the end...they pride were diminished along with them...

    similarly a person with superiority complex is someone, who has not seen the entire world...he might be the king of the pond...but then whenever he goes into a river...he would understand it...


    On the other hand...Inferiority complex is entirely opposite to it...someone who has given up, someone who is lost...someone who believes he/she is not capable of doing anything worthwhile...well according to me...if having a superiority feeling is a curse ...being inferior is also not a doom...

    instead of being of any of the categories..we should be confident enough that we can achieve our goals and humble enough that if we can achieve than any body can...!!!


    Mind:

    i totally agree on your views here...
    similar to your story i have small piece...to speak about...
    when we lose someone what we do?
    we forget everything and think about that person...it seems only endless memories and tears become our partner for life...but what we we forget that there are several loved ones who are still there with us...we never think about their presence but the absence of 1 person means a lot...we have to change this thinking...we should live with what we have....and not rue to what we don't ...!!!

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    1. Loved the last lines where you talk about achieving our goals... the problem with all of us is that we rarely see ourselves the way we are supposed to be. Rather we see ourselves the way others do with their opinions which is wrong and that is what makes us inferior or superior for when we were born we were all equal!

      About mind. that is true. Wish people truly admired having few people in their life who truly loved them for what they are. It would have made a lot of difference. For if a person loved you he/she would not give you tears...!

      P.S Thank you so much for this comment. I seriously love long comments as it means whatever I wrote made you think, analyse and it left an impression on your mind. Truly appreciated :)

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