Give & Gratify ~ This week






SALT ~ This week ~ Give



We meet many interesting people in our life who leave an unforgettable imprint on our lives. Our teachers, classmates, childhood friends, neighbours – they all seem to behold a precious part of our life; our childhood. Meeting them somehow rekindles that spark which seems to have gotten dull due to chaotic pollution around us. But sadly these days we are all so busy in our own lives we simply find time to reconnect with such beautiful aspects of our live. We barely have time for ourselves, leave alone for others.

Time is a created thing. To say "I don't have time" is to say "I don't want to." - Lao Tzu

I had such an opportunity very recently when I went to meet my Veena Teacher. I have learnt instrumental classical music for 8 years from her. And despite moving various cities for studies and jobs I have always tried to keep in touch with her as for me she defines a very beautiful part of my childhood – music. She was the one who introduced me to the wonderful world of music, taught me all the taalams and patiently sat with me as I practiced the fine art of perfection. I also share a wonderful rapport with her daughter as we have grown up together.

Sadly over the last few years her health has deteriorated very badly. Five years ago she got her first Alzheimer’s attack in which she lost her speech. Since then every day has been a new surprise as she continues to forget things. Today she has been reduced to that of a vegetable where she is barely able to do anything on her own. I feel very bad when I see her in this state as I feel helpless. I would actually do anything to hear one word from her, even if it is a scolding. 

One day I was on my usual visit to her, when before leaving I told her daughter, ‘Do let me know in case you need anything. I would be more than happy to be of any help.

She smiled and said, ‘You know, in life the moment each one of us is blessed with money we feel we are invincible. We tend to value everything in monetary terms. I have had so many people offering me monetary help, giving me free advice as to what is the best to do for my mother, doctors sending me free medicines etc. Each one has something to give me. But little do they realise that money is something that cannot buy everything. By God’s grace we have decent money to take care of Amma’s medical expenses. What she needs is time – which sadly no one has to give. But you give that to her. You see she tries to make noises to get your attention when you come. She is trying to tell you Thanks for giving me your time as that is the most important thing one can give, especially in today’s times. I cannot have asked for anything more from you dear.’

I seriously cannot express what I felt that day. I was doing this with a very selfish motive. I wanted to be in touch with that part of my life. And going in that house, being with them meant that to me. I never realized that my selfish intentions could mean joy for someone else. On one hand I felt bad for having been so selfish but I also felt good knowing my teacher felt my presence.

Lesson Learnt : Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.’Rick Warren


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PEPPER ~ This week ~ Gratify


By nature life is pretty simple. But we tend to add miseries, worries, concerns, jealousy, hatred, ego, anger, revenge and all other malice’s to it to make it complex. To top it all, after doing this we crib about life being tough. 

When I hear somebody sigh’ Life is hard, I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’  - Sydney J Harris.

We are so busy looking at the bigger picture that we forget the smaller joys that life throws our way. I guess it is high time someone redefined Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and filled it with more relevant things in today’s times. We continue being a part of that rat race and keep running to survive till the time when something untoward happens and wakes us up from the slumber. That is when we realise how selfish we have been till now to not have seen the beauty we have been surrounded with. 

I witnessed something terrible this week which made me question many things including the fragile base of trust that we built our relationships on. Fortunately I just witnessed it and not experienced it. Though I felt bad about the way things had began to become off late, it also made me feel grateful for all the small blessings God had showered me with. I maintain a gratitude journal and this incident touched me deeply enough to make me turn the pages and count my blessings once again today.

So here this week I am sharing with you few entries from my gratitude journal:

I am grateful  

  • When someone read something I had written for a contest on a website, took the pains to find me out and send me a note of appreciation. – as this shows I touched that person’s heart somewhere and that person did the same in return.
  • When someone read my entire blog; (Yes!! From the 1st post to the last one) in a span of 2-3 days and left a comment on each post as a mark of appreciation – as this means my writings are truly appreciated
  • When I am told I don’t sound like a 28 year old at all; rather it seems like someone who is in her 50s and has seen life a lot. – Because this shows I have grown as a person
  • When I receive a text message ‘Knowing you as a person is wonderful but knowing you through your blog is magical :) – because my blog defines the real ME.
  • When I read such lovely comments on my posts – as it means that people are not interested in who I am, what my caste/creed/colour is, but are only interested in knowing what I think. And it matters the most!
  • Many people feel I blog extensively, yes I do because for me this is the only outlet. Kind of a medicine I need very regularly to keep my sanity in control!
The list is lengthier as the feeling of gratitude keeps getting stronger and stronger each day! I am lucky to have been surrounded by such lovely people who keep on gratifying me in some way or other.



Lesson Learnt : Be grateful for all that you are and have. For there are many people out there who would love to be in your place. Learn the art of gratifying people as it will help you spread more smiles & cheer around you.
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Comments

  1. Me, this was absolutely beautiful . . . giving of our time to others and being grateful for all our blessings, large and small, is the only way to truly live. I loved and was so touched by your story about your music teacher (my dad has Alzheimer's), and enjoyed reading your thank you thoughts.
    You have been an inspiration to me today!
    Blessings, my dear!

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    1. Thanks so much Martha, it is a pleasure to know that I could inspire you today :)

      Being with someone who suffers from Alzheimers or any other disease is a challenge in itself - but to win it one does not need any physical strength. It just needs a caring heart to win this battle.

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  2. I am sorry for your veena teacher. You are absolutely right. We should be grateful for what we have.

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    1. Yes SG, being grateful has the key to lead a happy and contended life!

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  3. Again, a wonderful salt and pepper post!
    How nice of you to visit your teacher just to relive old moments!
    Loved the idea of maintaining a gratitude journal too. Wish you the best, Me :-)

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    1. :)

      Thanks Uma.. this gratitude journal idea came when I read about it online. They say your joy increases manifold as you continue reading all the good things about your life.

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  4. An amazing post about giving & gratifying. The 02 virtues we are getting poor at :(
    I just love the positive flow of energy that your posts radiate. Do keep writing ME.

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    1. Thanks so much Sukku - that was really a wonderful comment!

      And sadly yes we are getting poor at them and we really really need to work on them.

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  5. Touching as always me. I loved the first one especially. Have not heard much of Alzemiers in India. Great that you are able to spend some time with your teacher. And your friend was so rt. So many of us think that monetary help can replace the personal presence or touch. Actually money is our way of escaping from responsibility claiming that we too offer help!

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    1. Alzheimer’s though not very common in our country there are a few people out there who have become victims to it reducing their life to nothing but dependency.

      Your last line is simply beautiful Jas loved it!

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  6. You are such a good person Me :) You have the amazing talent of touching hearts... maybe you realise that, maybe you don't. But bear in mind that somewhere, each day, with each pst of yours you're spreading a smile across someone's face.
    Glad to have come to know you Ma'am.

    Give and gratify : Ignored aspects of life. I share the same thoughts as you... I hate to hear people say they don't have time for doing certain things. I always feel that for the things that hold/should hold importance in our lives, we ought to make time. And gratify, ah! I'm one of those miserable beings who'd see the world with a jaundiced eye. But, I'm trying to change that perspective of mine. Thanks for sharing!

    Take care Me!

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    1. Nope dear - I would like to say - life has the beautiful way of making me meet some wonderful people who in turn teach me some beautiful lessons... They come and touch my life in a way that I am never ever the same again :)

      Ah! About the smiles part, I would just say the pleasure is all mine. It feels superb to be the reason behind someone's smile. Knowing you has been an equally elating process!

      Wow! Knowing that you see things with jaundiced eyes makes you reach half way there already.. so I am sure you will solve it very soon too.

      You too take care!

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  7. BEAUTIFUL writing Me! Give nearly brought tears to my eyes. How true is that quote by Rick Warren. Time is everything that is needed to do anything we want in life. :) I'm glad that I invest time on the people I love. There's nothing that speaks louder than actions and the very act of investing your time on someone, very well knowing that you will never get that time back is indeed a divine act. :)

    Gratify. Gratitude is one thing that nobody can ever get wrong. It really makes your life a better place! And truthfully, being thankful is a skill not many people have acquire through their journey of life.. They are far too busy trying to get to their destination, that they do not observe and absorb the beauty of their journey towards it.

    Hugs Me! :)

    And you are really 28?

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    1. Yes it does tug your heart but it is true. Time is the most precious gift you can give to any one - like the way you take out time to read my posts and comment here :)

      I truly appreciate that as it means that person shared some moments of his/her life which they might never get back with you which makes it all the more special..

      About gratitude you have expressed it very well here... warm hugs to you too dear :D

      P.S: Yes!! I am <3

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  8. Love the part about your Veena teacher...very touching!

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  9. Very interesting. So you know classical music? must have been a big part of your life.

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    1. Yes Jas, a very big. It started because my Mom was very keen and it ended with me being a crazy fan of music now :)

      Thank you <3

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  10. Such a touching post. And yes, isnt time the most coveted asset that we realize its significance only when its all gone?

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    1. Very true Meoww... we do this very often and then repent at leisure!

      Thanks, glad you liked it!

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  11. Touching story...nicely written...thanks...

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    1. Hello Ravi,

      Glad I could touch you :)

      Thank you so much for being here today, hope to see you more often.

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  12. Loved your post-that's the way to live!

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    1. Thanks Indu..glad you loved it!

      Welcome to my blog; hope to see you here more often :)

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  13. Finally. :) I've been looking for that moment when I'd be able to come visit your blog and read your posts in peace. The more I read of you, the more I feel I've once again found a soulmate of sorts. We've only shared a few comments back and forth, and mutual appreciation. I know you're bestowed with love, respect and appreciation way more than the few words I have for you. And you deserve it all. Our love for writing, our love for goodness, our classical music childhood, and this:

    "When I am told I don’t sound like a 28 year old at all; rather it seems like someone who is in her 50s and has seen life a lot. – Because this shows I have grown as a person"

    I could have written that today, and it would completely perfect and accurate, from start to end. :)

    Thank you for a beautiful post ♥

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    1. ^-^

      I am touched after reading this comment IQ... hugs to you!

      It is an honour to hear that you feel I am your soul mate as it is very rare that you find yours in this biiiigg world. You are right the magical connection is very much apparent.No words of love can be few, they all matter simply because they are full of love, straight from the heart.

      A huge SAME pinch for such beautiful similarities. It truly reflects the deep connection we have. Glad to have met you in this blogging journey dear.

      P.S: Had been contemplating a few things off late and your comment just cheered me up like anything. Thanks for this! <3

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    2. Oh I don't think it's *that* hard to find *A* soulmate (although we're always in search for THE soulmate) I have a theory that we're all interconnected, like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle, and there are pieces around us with which we just connect more readily or naturally :).
      And I think that for those of us who readily subscribe to a way of thought or being, such as goodness, more stronger the affinity is felt. :) I'm glad it cheered you up though! I've also been a bit in the clouds myself, and it's always even more cheering to know I've cheered another. :) ♥

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    3. :-O

      Read this to know why I reacted like this to your first lines:

      http://wingstomywords.blogspot.in/2012/09/whispering-wednesday_26.html

      :)

      Wow! Being in clouds is surely a wonderful feeling !!

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  14. You touched my heart...really...i believe by the time i read all your post i would be a much better person than i am now...

    Give: Time is the most precious thing we all have and it's the most precious belonging more than money as you highlighted correctly that we can give any person...from what we have...giving someone your time means giving someone a part of your life...exactly...!!!

    Gratify: After reading gratify...i could realize i have made a habit to read your post...irrespective of knowing your real name or inquiring anything about you...as i don't need these...all i need is something from where i can learn...i can be a better person...and once i learn to do that...i am sure everything will be on right track automatically be it my writing, my thinking or me...!!!

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    1. Wow..that is such a lovely thing to read :)

      I am truly speechless after reading this comment of yours! You are already a wonderful person I don't know why you think you could be better!

      I like the way you put forth my ideas so beautifully in your own interpretation. I believe we all are learners in this world and there is something to be learnt from everyone and everything around us. I am learning from you a lot of things just the way you are learning from me.

      Pleasure having met you in this wonderful blogging world :)

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    2. who said i am a wonderful person ?
      i am a seeker of goodness and goodwill and i try to fetch it from wherever i get...and your posts provides me with those virtues which i am looking forward to...i.e; ways of being a good person...!!!

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    3. We all are seekers in this world and the ones who have realised this have already embarked on their journey too!

      So I would just say Bon Voyage, happy seeking :)

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  15. Oh wow !! this is also one of the best salt and pepper I have read. I think I had missed it completely somehow :(.

    Give: The daughter of your teacher is very right.The most important thing to give or share is time than anything else in this world. For an old lady more than medicine she wants to talk to someone or see someone bringing smile on her face, making her belief in her :) I too try to follow this a lot irrespective of anything else. Because by giving time if you can give a smile to someone than your time is much much more valuable.

    Gratify: Oh yes we should always be grateful to people for whatever they do. So I should also be to you making me learn so many things from your blog.:)
    But really people have mentioned right things to you except you are in 50s :P

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    1. :D

      The best salt and pepper is yet to come - for me!

      Thanks so much for your encouraging feedback, truly appreciate teh same!

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