Choose & Speak ~ This week

SALT ~ This week ~ Choose

Sometime last month I received a call from my head-office informing me about the arrival of one of my collegues. Well, she is working for the same organisation as mine but for some different location. For some reasons she was going to work from our branch for atleast a month or so, the admin department informed  me. Usual to my nature I did not ask any further questions and said ok before hanging up.Maybe I was too occupied with my work to even give this thing a thought. I was like ' Ok..she is coming. Let her.' Within just 15 minutes I get a call from the reception informing about her arrival. I walk down to the reception to meet her as I feel courtesy demands this much rather than asking her to fend for herself.

We both struck an instant camaraderie and soon were chatting nineteen to dozen. [ I guess that's a typical trait of girls!!]. All the time we were talking I noticed that there was something amiss with this girl. I found it inappropriate to ask her about it so I left it at that. I ensured she had a desk next to mine, introduced her to all other colleagues and got all everything working for her. 

All this while as I continued doing stuff for her I never gave it any thought at all. Over the passage of time, as we continued meeting everyday I came to know she was undergoing some serious marital problems and hence was here on a break as things we getting too much to handle for her there. In her 1.5 months stay that she was here I suggested her loads of books and a few superb blogs that some of you write to read. We used to have lunch together daily as we talked about various things. And yes, we also went shopping on some occasions.

Yesterday as she left for her place, she hugged me tightly and started crying. I was a bit taken aback. I asked her if she wanted to stay some more here. She replied,

'You know when I came here I was blank. I just wanted to run away and I landed here. But now that I think of it maybe I was destined to meet you. I have started seeing things in a different perspective. I know we have never discussed my personal life and you have never given me any advice on it but somehow through you, your blog, other blogs and books you recommended I have gathered that much needed strength to face the storm that is coming my way. It makes a lot of difference to know that at least there are some people on this earth who are not interested in your personal life but you as a person. I was so fed up of all those personal questions back at my place that I had decided to quit.But now I want to face them all, smile at them and say Everything is fine and whatever is not, is none of your business.You perhaps don't realize all that you have done for me, but all that you have matters a lot to me. And it is truly cherished forever. Thank you so much!'

She left me a beautiful greeting card with a book. I was touched by her gesture.She is right in saying this, perhaps sometimes we just don't realise what impact do we have on others lives. A small act of kindness which was done purely unintentionally where I just wanted to say I am there in case you need me made someone so happy .

Lesson Learnt : As it is said in life , God chooses some relationships for us , like our family members. And there are some that we choose, like our friends. But I learned that there are some relationships that choose us. There is no other reason why we both met. It feels good to know that you are the reason behind someone's smile.


PEPPER ~ This week ~ Speak

We have a lovely girl at our office named Apeksha (Name changed)  who is perhaps the youngest member of our office. She is very pretty and chirpy. Couple of months ago she had fallen in love with a guy who works in the nearby office. Though she never told anyone about it, but it was too evident as everybody used to witness them together hanging out, hand in hand like lovebirds at various places. Neha (name changed) is Apeksha's best friend. Since day one they have been together. Though Neha has been working with us for quite sometime now, she has virtually taken Apeksha under her mentorship.

It turned out that the guy Apeksha was seeing , was not good. He was known as a casanova and used girls for their money. Due to her care and concern Neha tried to warn Apeksha about all this. But Apeksha simply refused to pay an heed.Neha asked all of us to do something as she could not see Apeksha walking on a path of self ruin. Some of us did try but that made Apeksha more obstinate. She stopped speaking to Neha and gradually with each one of us. She would constantly be on the phone in the office also. We suggested Neha to leave it on Apeksha as now there was nothing more that we could do about.

Last week we came to know Apeksha had tried committing suicide. Though she was out of danger now but some of her internal organs have been damaged beyond repair, due to which she might never be able to conceive in life.It turned out that boy had used her emotionally, mentally, physically and financially before dumping her zealously as he simply vanished from the face of earth. It was too much for Apeksha to handle who had already woven dreams of a rosy future together.

In this entire scenario I am wondering; could it have been saved anyhow. I feel that maybe if Neha would not have spoken to Apeksha against that guy she would have remained friends with her and shared all her problems. Maybe that ways we could have saved her from all this trouble, by at least not leading to her suicide. She would have had an emotional support wherein we could have stopped her from taking this drastic step.

Lesson Learnt :In some relationships it is important to speak, while in some it is important not to.


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